Love or Hate..?

If I’m not wanted or welcome, I erase that person from my life. Is it good? Is it bad?

This question was read in Sujatha Satya blog, who is my guide during MBA. The question and thoughts were interesting, but at the same time I felt even I had something to share on this. This question arises in everyone’s life and all has something to say. So decided put this on Facebook and get some thoughts from friends.

Some of them has said leave the negative energy aside convert it to positive, forget past and move on. But these are not practical in life and definitely not for common man to follow. Yes, I do agree with positive thought and forgiveness, but the question to be viewed on more practicality. How do you survive with such person’s. Let us accept the fact that am not Gandhi or Buddha. I am just a common man who want to live and let live.  Do not hate any person in life, because "As you sow so shall you reap". Act of hating is like a ball thrown on the wall, which bounce back on us. But the question is how do you manage them.

If someone really express that you are not wanted or welcomed, first ignore them. Since you are ignoring him, that does not mean that he will not trouble you. It reminds of a sms “Don't think since you are vegetarian, the lion does not eat you when encountered in jungle”. Yes, he will come and trouble you in some or the other way, so you cannot erase them. You cannot completely move out of them also as world is small, you need to encounter them some or the other way. So prioritise them in your life and give them least priority.

There is a limit for everything  and your tolerance too. One final day you get anger on them.  Getting angry is not bad, as it is a part and parcel of human life. But, if that anger is turned towards violence or to hurt someone then it is negative. You turn those anger into positivity by engaging in some physical exercise or some task. The other ways are share it with best friends if possible or  blog it out. Just let it go out of your system. If kept in your system it can cause some serious injuries to your thought process.

But if that person starts hurting your professional life or personal life then ultimately you need to fight. This is where the Ultimate Management Guru of this world Lord Krishna comes in. There was a king called Shishupala, who used to trouble Krishna very much. Krishna has given him the free pass for insulting 100 times. One final day, the Shishupala over crossed his limits and Krishna finished him. Definitely, I am not suggesting to kill that person. But what can we learn from Krishna? Ignore that person for the first time and forgive for the second time. If he continues, then time has come for you to stand up and counter attack. Go for killing his strategies or thoughts, which is targeted to trouble you. Then there onwards you don't have to tolerate that person and keep a check on him to manage proactively.

Disclaimer: I am not advocating the hating, but at the same time practical enough to save myself from it. Self-defence is not bad even if you hurt others while doing so.